Wedding Wednesday: How to Give a Wedding Toast

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How to give a wedding toast |

We are right in the thick of wedding season, so chances are you have a wedding or two to attend over the next couple of months. Maybe you’re even in a wedding. Maybe, just maybe, you’ve even been asked to give a toast at the wedding of a loved one. Eek!

Not all of us are natural public speakers, so the idea of getting up in front of a large crowd may be nothing short of terrifying. I should know. It was almost a 10 years ago now (!!!) that I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding.

Lisa giving maid of honor speech

Somehow I managed to not look absolutely terrified in this photo, despite the fact that I’m pretty sure I was barely holding it together. I don’t think I slept in the week leading up to the wedding because I was so darn nervous!

Now, so many years later, I don’t really remember what I spoke about, but I remember feeling proud that I pulled it off. The only way I made it through though? Advice from the internet, of course. I read everything I could find in the weeks leading up to the internet, which was quite a bit less than what’s available now. I’m a little envious at just how much is available now because from what I’ve seen in the years since the wedding I made a major faux pas:

How to give a wedding toast: Should you use a cheat sheet?

I used a cheat sheet. 😬

I actually don’t regret using the cheat sheet since I was quoting Shakespeare and didn’t want to mess up the quote in front of the bride’s father, who just so happened to be a scholar of Victorian literature. But still, I’ve heard that the trend now is having the entire speech memorized. If you’re trying to figure out how to give a wedding toast though, my recommendation is thus: Do whatever makes you comfortable! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with using a cheat sheet or a teleprompter or even your phone. The only thing that matters is the sentiment.

I just spent some time searching for tips for how to give a wedding toast and came across a couple of good resources. If you’ll be standing in front of a crowd and toasting your friend as he or she begins the next phase of life, calm your nerves and check out the tips after the jump.

The number one tip for how to give a wedding toast, in my opinion? Practice, practice, practice. And then practice some more. Not because you need to give a perfect speech but because it will make you feel more comfortable when you stand up in front of the crowd.

Tips for how to give a wedding toast |


How to write a maid of honor speech |

What other tips do you have for how to give a wedding toast? What has worked for you?

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